如何让大人对你“有求必应”

想让父母给你买一个喜欢的手机吗？想让父母允许你上网聊天吗？想让老师给你更高的分数吗？可是，从大人那里要东西可真不容易啊！你要怎么做才能如愿以偿呢？

Do you often wonder if the adults in your life are really listening to you？ Does it sometimes seem like they say no before you've even finished asking a question？ From parents to teachers to coaches， adults can have a tendency not to listen to younger people， which is definitely frustrating！ Not to worry， though—we can help！ Here's how to get them to pay attention and even see things your way！

你常会怀疑周围的大人是否在认真听你讲话吗？是不是有时好像你的问题还没问完，他们就拒绝了你？无论是父母、老师还是教练，大人们往往不会去听年轻人说什么，这当然会让你感到不爽！不过，别担心，我们能帮你！下面就告诉你怎么让大人们关心你的想法甚至是站在你的角度看问题。

Mom & Dad 面对父母

Cell Phone Blues

You don't just want a cell phone， you NEED one ... but Mom and Dad don't think it's a good idea.

Instead of ...

"But everybody else has one！"

Try ...

Convincing your parents that having your own cell phone will actually benefit them！ Not only will they always be able to find out where you are， but they'll also be able to contact you at all times—and in case of an emergency. That means you'll be safer， so they won't have to worry as much. Then you'll have to deal with their other concern： the cost. Offer to pay part of the monthly fee with your babysitting1） money or by doing extra chores around the house.

I Need IM2）！

You're the only one of your friends with no IM privileges3） ... talk about tragic！

Instead of ...

"All my friends think I'm such a loser because you won't let me IM."

Try ...

Proving to your parents that your homework always comes first. That way， they won't be quite so worried that it will become an obsession4）. Give your word that you'll always make time for family activities， too. Assure your parents that they can see your buddy5） list， check in on your convos6） at any time， or even put a time limit on your IM-ing each night. （Remember， compromise7） is the name of the game8） ...）

当你因为没有手机而沮丧的时候

你不仅是想要一部手机，而是“需要”一部手机……可你的父母却觉得这个主意不怎么样。

不要说：

“可是别人都有手机啊！”

而应该试着去……

让你的父母相信，你要是有了自己的手机，实际上对他们有好处。他们不但能随时知道你的行踪，还能随时（包括在紧急情况下）联系上你。这也就意味着你会更安全，而他们也就不必太担心你了。接下来，你还得打消他们的另一个顾虑——话费。主动提出每月用你替人照看小孩所赚来的钱来支付一部分话费，或是帮家里做一些额外的家务活儿来抵消一部分话费吧。

当你想用即时通讯工具的时候

在朋友圈中，你是唯一一个不能用即时通讯工具和别人聊天的人……太“杯具”了！

不要说：

“就是因为你们不许我用即时通讯工具，我所有的朋友都觉得我很逊。”

而应该试着去……

证明给你的父母看，你总是把做家庭作业放在首位。这样，他们就不会过于担心你会聊天上瘾。向他们保证，你也会经常腾出时间参加家庭活动。你还要向父母保证，他们可以查看你的好友列表，并可以随时查看你的聊天记录，甚至可以限定你每晚的聊天时间。（记住，妥协最重要。）

Coaches 面对教练

A New Position

It's time for a change ... you're ready to play a new position on the team.

Instead of ...

"Why do you always make me play defense9）？ I know I could score more goals than Alexis if you'd just give me her position."

Try ...

Watching the girls who play the position you'd like to try， so you can get the scoop10） on the skills you'll need to perfect. Then practice those moves every chance you get！ At the next practice， tell the coach you're interested in trying a new position， and that you're willing to do whatever it takes to be good at it. If she gives you the opportunity， go all out11）. If she doesn't agree right away， don't give up！ Continue working on the skills you need， but don't give up on the position you play now. Prove that you're a team player with the moves for any position， and you'll get your dream spot！

当你想在球队里打一个新位置的时候

是时候该做出改变了……你已经准备好在球队里打一个新的位置。

不要说：

“为什么您总让我当防守队员呢？我知道，要是您把亚历克西斯的位置给我，我一定能进更多的球。”

而应该试着去……

多观察你想打的那个位置上的那些女孩，这样你就会深入了解自己需要精进的那些技巧。接下来，一有机会你就练习那些动作！在下次训练时告诉教练，你想要打一个新的位置，并且愿意付出任何努力打好那个位置。如果教练给你这个机会，那么就全力以赴地去打。如果她没有马上同意，你也不要放弃！继续练习你需要的那些技巧，同时继续打好你现在所在的位置。要向教练证明，你是一位具有团队精神的运动员，可以胜任任何一个位置，这样你就会得到自己心仪的位置！

Teachers 面对老师

Great Grades

You worked super hard on your Egyptian pyramids paper， but got stuck with just a B.

Instead of ...

"What in the world do you have to do to get an A around here？ So not fair！"

Try ...

Scheduling an appointment with your teacher. It always helps to go straight to the teacher instead of stewing12） and steaming13） alone！ Ask what you could have done to make the paper better， and listen carefully to what he says. Don't act upset or offended14） at his suggestions， either. If he doesn't want you to rewrite this paper， use the tips to improve your next one—and then totally ace it15）！ You can always ask for extra credit to bring your grade up， too.

当你想得到高分的时候

你为埃及金字塔那篇论文着实费了不少心血，可却只得了一个B。

不要说：

“到底要怎样您才能给我一个A啊？太不公平了！”

而应该试着去……

约你的老师见一面。不要自己一个人在那儿焦躁不安、怒火中烧，去找老师当面聊一聊总会管用的。问问老师你本该做什么才能把这篇论文写得更好，认真听取他的建议。此外，不要对老师的建议表现出一副不高兴或生气的样子。如果他不想让你重写这篇论文，那就借鉴他给你的那些建议去改进你的下一篇论文，然后拿个满分！你还可以让老师给你额外的学分来提高你的成绩。

YOU'LL GET IT！ No matter what the situation， your first step should be to try thinking like an adult. What would make them feel better about giving you what you're asking for？ You want something that involves more responsibility？ Think about ways you've already shown how responsible you are， and point them out. Show them that you're dedicated16） and will do anything to make it happen. And if you can show them that whatever it is you want will also benefit them—you've found your winning card！

你会如愿以偿的！不论遇到什么样的情况，你首先要做的就是试着让自己像大人一样考虑问题。怎样才能让他们给你你想要的东西的同时感觉更好些呢？你想要的东西需要你承担更多的责任吗？回想一下你已经通过哪些方式展现出了你的责任感，把它们指出来。向大人们展示出你的诚意，并告诉他们，为了实现你的目标，你什么都愿意做。如果你能向他们证明，不管你想要的是什么，他们都能从中受益，那你就已经找到你的必胜法宝了！

2. IM： Instant Messenging，即时通讯，如MSN、QQ等

3. privilege [?pr?v?l?d?] n. 特权

4. obsession [?b?se?n] n. 着迷，着魔

5. buddy [?b?di] n. 好朋友

6. convo： （= conversation）谈话，对话

7. compromise [?k?mpr?ma?z] n. 妥协

8. name of the game： 最为重要的活动或思想

9. defense [d??fens] n. 【体】防守队员

10. scoop [sku?p] n. （局面或事件的）实质；详情

11. go all out： 全力以赴

12. stew [stju?] vi. 不安；担忧

13. steam [sti?m] vi. 生气，发怒

14. offend [??fend] vt. 冒犯，使生气

15. ace it： 得满分

16. dedicated [?ded?ke?t?d] adj. 一心一意的；热诚的