人生法则将会影响我的一生

"The laws of life will continue to influence my life"

Vassily Polyvianny age 12

瓦西里・波利维亚尼12岁

WHAT IS A LAW? A dictionary de- fines it as a common set of rules established by a state.Each individual in society should accept legal laws and follow them. What then is a law of life? In my view it is a set of personal rules that one should reflect upon and set out to live by.

When exploring the evolution of legal laws we may assume that they derive from previous common experiences and situations. Similar to that, setting up personal laws of life is related to thinking about past situations and mistakes and searching for better solutions.

What are the laws of life to me？Ｉ started investigating the topic only now, when I am 12 year old.I believe that to determine my laws of life that will give me guidance I have to learn how to live in harmony with those around me, with my family and with myself. I also have to learn how to use the past mistakes and obstacles as useful tools that help me live through.

It seems that it works as a sort of pattern where law = my relations with others (teachers, friends)+ my relations with my family (mother, father, grandmother and grandfather)+my relations with myself (I and I).

To get along with my family I should keep in mind the situations that could be stressful and cause trouble to those who I love. If I do my best to please my family everybody will benefit.Therefore the Law #1 is: Try to please others, and joy will return to you two or three times as much.

Now, my relations with myself... When I get a low grade I am frustrated, but as soon as I start thinking of the situation as a challenge that I face (as for example, Peter the Great who took obstacles as benefits to grow), I feel better. My Law #2 is: Don't be afraid of problems. Problems can always be overcome and make you stronger, and you benefit by paving the way to higher goals.

My relations with those around me...I noticed a long time ago, that if I worry about somebody's negative judgments I am pleasing those who want to hurt me. My Law #3 is: Be in harmony with yourself, don't worry about negative attitudes, and those who try to hurt you will get hurt back.

Well, this Law does not seem to fit well with my Law #4: Don't wish bad things on those around you...I should think thor oughly on that.

I am 12 years old, and, if God allows, I will be 13 and so on... I am convinced my laws of life will develop with time and continue to influence my life.

P. S. Finishing the essay, I turned over a vase with flowers on my dad's desk and some of his papers got wet. Dad is not home now and I am not sure what he would say or do when coming back. Which of his laws would he apply? Which of my laws will I use? Seems that I need to add a new law to my set of rules. Law #5 says: Don't let the harm you caused to others grow and expand. Do your very best to improve the situation as soon as possible.

什么是法则呢?字典上解释为一个国家制定的一整套制度。社会中的每一个人都应该认同法律，遵守法律。那么“人生法则”又是什么呢?在我看来，就是个人深思后，打算遵循的一套准则。

当我们探讨法律发展史的时候，可能会认为这些都是由从前普通的经历和境况演变而来的。与此相同，确立个人的“人生法则”需要考虑以往的境况和失误，找出更好的解决办法。

那么，我的“人生法则”是什么呢?我只是现在，也就是十二岁的时候，才开始研究这个问题。我相信要确立指导自己的“人生法则”就得学会跟身边的人、跟家人，乃至跟自己和谐相处。我也得学会把过去的失误和障碍作为有效的手段来帮助自己经受生活的磨难。

似乎是这样一个工作模式：法则二我与他人(老师，朋友)的关系+我与家人(妈妈，爸爸，祖母和祖父)的关系 +我与自己的关系(我和我)。

要跟家人相处融洽，我必须时刻想着会给所爱的人产生压力、带来烦恼的情况。如果我能尽力让家人高兴，那大家就都会受益。因此第一条法则就是：如果竭力取悦他人，快乐就会接二连三地回到你身边。

好了，该谈我与自己的关系……当我得了低分的时候，就会垂头丧气，但是当我把这件事认为是自己面临的一个挑战(比如，大彼得总把障碍作为成长的恩惠)的时候，我的心情就好多了。我的第二条法则就是：不要畏惧困难，困难总可以克服掉，并使你更坚强，你会因迈向更高的目标而受益。

我与身边的人的关系……很久以前，我就认识到，如果我担心别人的负面评价，我就是在取悦那些想要伤害我的人。我的第三条法则就是：自己要调整好，不要为消极的态度而担心，那些想要伤害你的人自，己也会受到伤害。

这条法则似乎与我的第四条法则不吻合，我的第四条法则是：不要希望你身边的人有什么不好……我应该对此进行详尽的考虑。

我今年十二岁，如果上帝允许的话，我将会十三岁，十四岁……我相信我的“人生法则”会随着时间的推移而逐渐形成，并不断影响我的生活。

附笔写完散文，我把开着花的花瓶在爸爸的书桌上倒过来，结果把桌上的几张纸弄湿了。当时，爸爸不在家，我不知道他回来后会怎么说、怎么做。他会用他的哪条法则呢?我会用我的哪条法则呢?似乎需要在我的一整套法则中加一条新法则，即第五条法则：不要让你给别人带来的伤害进一步扩大，要竭尽全力尽快改变这种处境。

瓦西里想当医生，明确地说是想当鼻喉专家。他喜欢弹吉他、徒步旅行和旅游观光。瓦西里认为“写‘人生法则’的散文给我提供了机会，使我能够认真考虑真正决定我生活方式的因素，那就是我与家人、身边的人和我自己的关系。”